The Londesborough Pub Wedding | London | Hannah and Phil

The Londesborough Pub Wedding | London | Hannah and Phil

Hannah and Phil’s low key and relaxed Londesborough Pub wedding in London

How did you get started with planning your wedding at The Londesborough Pub?

We didn’t really ‘get engaged’ as such. When Phil and I ‘had the chat’ and agreed to get married, I did a bit of research on pub for a pub wedding and civil ceremony in London. We essentially booked our venues within a week after that. It was all quite easy for us as we weren’t getting married on a Saturday, and the options for the type of wedding we wanted weren’t that massive. I think if you have to go and look round loads of venues, or fix on a Summer date really far in advance it’s probably much more difficult.

When we told everyone we were getting married in the next few weeks their faces were funny when the answer was ‘no no we are not just engaged we are actually getting married on the 30th December in London, it’s booked – expect your invite!’

Bride and groom looking at celebrant at Clissold House wedding ceremony

How did you find planning your wedding? Was it easy? Did anything funny or interesting happen along the way?

It was fine. I did 99% of it, Phil wasn’t so bothered. It’s also easier to organise things if one person has it all in their head. I do a lot of organising stuff at work, so I just made a list and did it in big chunks in the holidays. Using the Londesborough helped because Amber knew everything and was so helpful. I think it must be much more difficult to organise a wedding if you are using multiple venues or more suppliers/caterers. We just cracked on and didn’t hit any barriers or last-minute disasters really.

Brde and groom leaving Clissold house to shower of confetti

How did you bring your individual personalities and your values into your wedding day?

We are both quite low key, so with each decision, we tried to do what was most relaxed and good for our guests! Clothes were a priority so we weren’t that low key with those decisions! We both also really like a good party, so we wanted a band, a free bar and basically a pub lock-in! There were lots of people travelling long distances and from overseas, so we wanted a relaxed day with minimal formal stuff. This meant we could spend as much time as possible chatting to people.

Bride toasting guests during wedding speeches at Londesborough Pub London

Why did you choose Clissold House and The Londesborough Pub for your wedding venues?

We wanted a pub lock-in vibe for our wedding. Something really relaxed and informal, with great food and the opportunity for a party.
Our ceremony was held at Clissold House because Stoke Newington Town Hall wasn’t available on the day we wanted to get married. It was actually amazing! Being in the park for photos was so lovely, as was seeing loads of people going about their day with their kids and stuff. We even got told by some small kids on scooters that we looked like a prince and princess!

Bride and groom walking down London street holding hands

Phil and I went to a talk about the History of Clissold Park in September with Amir Dotan. That guy knows everything about Stokey! This was amazing as it was in the room we got married in. It was so interesting to learn about the 19th-century campaign to keep the house and the park in public hands. We are so glad they did. I’m a History teacher so I loved knowing something meaningful about the building we got married in. I’m not sure the people in the cafe outside appreciated having confetti chucked in their flat whites, but what can you do!

Bride and groom having their first dance at the Londesborough pub

How did you style your wedding?

We went for flowers which were as seasonal as possible. There was vintage pink and dark red roses, lots of winter foliage and cream roses. Fiona Fleur was amazing to deal with and produced beautiful flowers which were entirely in line with what I had imagined.

We didn’t really have a lot of decoration. The Londesborough pub looks pretty amazing when it’s set up for weddings. We had white paper lanterns and jam jar flowers on the tables and big floral arrangement at the front of the pub. One of the students I teach who can do lovely calligraphy wrote out the name cards. Thank you Pico! The table plan was written up onto the board for us by Amber at the Londesborough. I ordered the invites online from Papier. Their service was really efficient. There was lots of choice and they were reasonably priced. Unfortunately, Phil only pointed out to me when he was addressing his that I had spelt the name of the venue wrong….. (note to self, proofread properly). No one else noticed, or at least no one was impolite enough to say.

A dancefloor full of guests at a Londesborough pub wedding

What did you eat at your Londesborough Pub wedding?

The food at The Londesborough was absolutely amazing. Lots of our guests said it was the best wedding food they had ever had. They may have just been being polite. Part of the reason I wanted to get married in a venue which is used to doing food all the time is that so many wedding caterers do food which is not great and very expensive!

We had a Croquembouche from Boulangerie Jade in Blackheath. It was amazing. Phil also wasn’t free on the day I booked to do the tasting, so I got to eat 8 profiteroles, which was ideal. It looked absolutely spectacular and our mums spent ages boxing up the profiteroles so people could take them home.

We also had a four-layer cheese wedding cake from the East London Cheese Board at Froth and Rind in Walthamstow. Fraser was so helpful and we got to try a lot of amazing cheese. We had vegan cheese from La Fauxmagerie in Brick Lane.

Bride and bridesmaid walking down curved staircase at Clissold House

What is your advice to other couples getting married? What would you do differently?

Try to plan it so you can spend time together and enjoy the day. Try to be as relaxed as possible. Our wedding was informal and I think that helped us have a great day. The only time I felt ‘on show’ was at the ceremony. The rest of the day we were just chatting with our friends and family. I might have got married on a different day so we could play loud music until midnight, but we couldn’t do this because of the time of year. Honestly, I think our wedding worked really well for us and our families. That’s all you can ask for!

Wedding guests toasting speeches at Londesborough pub wedding

What was it like to work with me?

Great! Thank you so much for all your help. It really helped that you had done weddings at our venues before, and so you knew exactly how the day would work. It really helped us put together the timings, and think about what was going to happen, where people were going to stand etc. Logistics basically!

Candid shot of bride and bridesmaid chatting to registrar at Clissold house

Londesborough Pub wedding suppliers

Wedding Dress: Lena Medoyeff from Heart A Flutter
Fake Fur Jacket: Liberty in Love 
Headpiece and Earrings: Hermione Harbutt 
Shoes: Rachel Simpson 
Groom’s Suit: Reiss
Bridesmaid dress: Maids to Measure
Flowers: Fiona Fleur
Ceremony Venue: Clissold House
Reception Venue: The Londesborough Pub
Cake: Boulangerie Jade
Cheese: East London Cheese Board
Wedding Band: The Hype 

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Bay Tree Hotel Wedding | Oxfordshire | Sara & James

Bay Tree Hotel Wedding | Oxfordshire | Sara & James

How did you start planning your wedding at The Bay Tree Hotel?

We had a rough idea of what we wanted – which was two different weddings. One in the UK, which is where we live, and one in the US, which is where all of my family lives. We started with a budget, deciding how much we could save each month, and worked our way through the planning from there. The venue was the most important to us to find first, as we imagined the rest of planning fell together from there – dress, decor, colour scheme, etc. Plus it was the most expensive so we wanted to find the perfect venue for the best price (and hopefully would give us more wiggle room in the rest of the expenses).

Bride groom groomsmen and bridesmaids pose for group photo in the garden at Bay Tree Hotel Wedding

 

How did you find planning your Oxfordshire wedding?

I initially thought planning a wedding, let alone two, would be simple – venue, attire, decor, food, done! Turns out it’s not that easy, especially when you are working with a different caterer and venue. Everyone involved have to be aligned down to the minute.

bride and groom laugh at wedding speeches sitting at table
It is also a lot more time consuming that one thinks. For example, we used Paperless Post to send the invitations out via email. The struggle it took to get everyone’s email address was unreal. We planned to send out the invites in January and ended up not getting everyone’s email address until March!


On this same note, another tip would be to not wait until the few days before the wedding to get the little finishing touches done. Several reasons for this. One huge one is that you may have family and friends from out of town coming up a few days before the wedding. I found that I really wanted to cherish this time with them rather than finish up wedding planning, because this would probably be the only time in my life all my favourite people would be together in one place. More importantly, you may have heightened stress the few days before the wedding. If one small, incredibly unimportant thing goes wrong, you will end up in tears, crying to your mother that your future husband doesn’t know the difference between card stock and photo stock.

Why did you choose The Bay Tree Hotel for your wedding?

We chose to get married at The Bay Tree Hotel in Burford, Oxfordshire. The venue is not only absolutely gorgeous, but you get so much for your money. The package included a ceremony, dinner and reception including a DJ, 21 hotel rooms, all in an exclusive-use of the hotel. What really did it for me is when we went to tour the venue before booking it and it was set up for a wedding later that evening. When I walked down the aisle, I immediately got goose bumps and that’s when I knew that I needed to have it!

Bride and groom dance surrounded by wedding guests at The Bay Tree Hotel in Burford Oxfordshire

How did you bring your individual personalities and your values in to your wedding day?

We both agreed that neither of us liked super traditional weddings, and wanted to take the bits and bobs that we would enjoy doing. We wanted to keep it simple, relaxed and fun because that’s the kind of people we would like to see ourselves as. We had hand-made / self-assembled centrepieces, a cosy venue, and loads of games, Polaroid camera’s and props to entertain.

Vicar leads wedding ceremony at The Bay Tree Hotel in Oxfordshire

I am also from the US and my husband is from the UK so we had slightly different wedding traditions that we wanted to incorporate. James’ dad had performed the ceremony for us as he was a priest, the meal was very traditionally English and the speeches were very American. All my bridesmaids had a part in the speeches. My bridesmaids included 3 American friends and my Dutch friend – there was no holding them back. My maid of honour took the lead speech and my sister sang this incredible song she wrote on the ukulele, which had everyone in tears. Needless to say, we really tried to make this day our own instead of making it traditional.

What is your advice to other couples getting married? What would you do differently?

Respect what each other want on your wedding day. Try to incorporate what is important to each of you. Try to make wedding planning fun and don’t do everything by yourself! It’s a good exercise in working together as a married couple. Try to not sweat the small stuff, because you most likely won’t remember those things on your big day.

Bridesmaid drinks shot surrounded by other bridesmaids and bride at Oxfordshire wedding

What was it like to work with me?

It was amazing working with Rowan! From the start, she was incredibly friendly and helpful planning out the day. I received so many tips on how to make sure the day ran smoothly including timings, when to best take the photographs and random things I never would have thought of. On the wedding day, she was super flexible with what we wanted to shoot and I honestly barely noticed her taking pictures during the ceremony and speeches. Last minute, James decided he wanted a picture of all of the wedding guests with us in one shot. Before I could say, ‘James, you’re crazy we’re never going to be able to do that,’ Rowan started gathering everyone to take a picture. It ended up being my favourite picture of the evening! She’s an absolute rock star!

Wedding guests holding shots all reach in to clink glasses


Bay Tree Hotel Wedding Suppliers

Wedding Dress: Wed2Be

Groom Suit: Moss Bros

Bridesmaid Dresses:  Lulus

Venues: The Bay Tree Hotel

Invites: Paperless Post


 

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Old Library Wedding | Birmingham | Jo & Tom

Old Library Wedding | Birmingham | Jo & Tom

Oh god this wedding was just AMAZING. When Jo and Tom enquired asking me to shooting their Old Library wedding and said they were planning on a mega party, with a curry feast, all adorned in sequins, I literally wanted to scream back down my email YES PLEASE PICK ME. But you can’t shout down an email, and it might have looked a bit weird. So I responded like a normal human and reserved my jubilation for when they did actually book me. So here’s my take on their epic wedding. It was colourful, and sparkly and joyful right to the end. Keep scrolling to read how Jo and Tom planned this extravaganza and see the story gallery. 

How did you get started planning your Birmingham wedding?

When I casually floated the idea of a wedding in the future, to keep up the pretence of being a mega-chill-babe, I referred to it as a big party. ‘If we ever had a big party, do you think you’d want a live band?’ just to seed the idea. When we started planning it, we kept that vibe – it’s just a big party. I think the first thing we did was make a list of people, then when you are looking at a supplier/idea/etc, you can sort of hold it up and see if it fits the audience. We focused on guests and things fell into place around that really. A party place, where we can bring vegan caterers, child friendly, central for travelling people, etc.

After the venue, the next thing we booked was you [the photographer], I think. It kind of helped us imagine what we wanted it to look like.

Inside the old library wedding digbeth - set up for a wedding with pink and blue giant balloons and gold chairs

Why did you choose to get married at The Old Library in Digbeth?

We were almost booked up with another venue, when Tom had his work xmas do at the old library. ‘Oh, that would be my dream wedding venue’ I said. Tom was like, well why aren’t we getting married there!? I’d thought it would be very expensive with limited food choices, but for a £500 fee you can take your own caterers which was perfect! I loved the light, the location, Michelle the wedding planner, I loved how many weddings they have there, so they are just super expert at it. Easy going but professional.

I do think Birmingham is lacking in really great venues. I’d love to see a few more with a DIY industrial vibe, I don’t know why there aren’t more in Digbeth? There are lots of units. [I quite agree!]

bride wearing pink sequin dress walking down digbeth street with friends all holding umbrellas outside the old library wedding

How did you find planning your informal wedding?

I loved it! What I hated was moving house, which should have all been done the year before, but ended up being January before getting married in August. We couldn’t really start the wedding in earnest until the move was done, which was frustrating. So we started booking things in January. Would have been a problem if we’d have had a Saturday wedding, but as it was Friday, it was fine.

the old library wedding - simple table centre piece with ivy and ornament

Doing some of the design bits was my favourite. The menus, website, etc. I’m pleased we now have essentially a house style guide. Ampersands, single spaces, railroad gothic font, with house colours! Insane what tom can be particular about – his key role was dicking around with the kerning on various printed items.

I booked a make up artist very late, after having read your blog, and thinking yeah, I don’t wanna dick around with eyelashes on the morning. Luckily for me, my make up artist Sarah Russell was great. I wanted crazy pink all round my eyes and cheeks, Space Geisha was my vaguely appropriative vibe.

friend congratulates bride at the old library wedding

We didn’t really have a colour scheme. We’d asked guests to wear ‘vibrant’ clothes (with a caveat for the goths, don’t worry dudes, you don’t have to wear lime green) and then we just kept ordering things until it all came together. Really the guests were vibrant but our colours were all quite pastel, but I still loved it all together. I was going to have white balloons, then coral, then sea green, and in the end just clicked order on something that wasn’t any of those. In a big white space like The Old Library, anything looks good.

bride and groom dance in the rain outside the old library wedding

How did you bring your individual personalities and your values to the day?

Tom likes to make things more fun and more expensive, I like to clamp down on frivolities and save money so we balanced out pretty well!

We both love our friends and family and are pretty emosh people, plus being obsessed with death as I am now I’m turning 40, the opportunity to tell and show people that I loved them was a siren call I couldn’t resist. After saying our vows, the speeches were my favourite bit, I bloody love a captive audience, and love telling people that I love them! Kel, the best woman’s speech has stayed with my since and I’ll still tear up if I think about it for too long. People say such big, dramatic stuff at funerals, and i wanted to say it all before then because, yeah, i’m batshit.

mother of the groom gives speech at the old library wedding

We love feminism and hate toxic masculinity and that did inform our day. Posies for all the brides-kids cos boys love flowers too, best man was a woman, Tom’s taking my surname, mom made a speech, I made a speech cos I love to wang on, I walked myself down the aisle cos although I love my dad, I’m not getting given from one person to another! Yuck!

flower girls and flower boy walk down the aisle at the old library wedding

What is your advice to other couples planning a wedding?

People say think about what you want, but we thought about what friends and family would want (Ie, lots of our friends have young kids, and we didn’t want anyone left out, so we made it very child friendly, but some people had flown in and we felt we wanted to give them a big party. Loads of vegan/vegetarians, so wanted food to be inclusive) and I am really pleased with that as a starting point.

bride in pink sequin wedding dress dances with friends at the old library wedding

Don’t overwhelm yourself with input – find one or two blogs that fit your vibe and stick with them.

What would I do differently? Not order 40 portions of chips from the shop around the corner for 9pm – no one ate them! Oh, and I wouldn’t buy paper floofers (paper pom poms)!

So, I was always of the Caitlyn Moran school of thought – if you think your wedding was the best day of your life, you haven’t taken MDMA in the middle of a field listening to your favourite band. HOWEVER. I think it was the best day of my life?? I mean, urgh, what next, putting WIFE in my insta bio?!?! Christ.

bride wearing pink floral headdress embraces with groom wearing blue waistcoat

How did you budget for your wedding?

We had a really strict budget spreadsheet, which we regularly updated. I was determined not to exceed what is really an enormous amount for one day’s fun. I was happy with the money we spent, but even if I’d have had a bigger budget, it would have felt wasteful to me to spend much more. Kids are starving, folks.

wedding guests wipe away tears at the old library wedding

We bought an A0 wall planner, and stuck it up, along with handwritten lists with tick boxes. Even though Tom, as a digital product person, loves an app. In this instance, visible, obvious lists and plans were the most useful for us.

What was it like to work with me?

Awesome. Honestly delightful. Aside from all the other stuff, I didn’t feel like a dickhead in front of the camera. In person, [you were] great with kids, magically everywhere at once, and so much fun. You just felt like a guest with a very big statement necklace!

a group of children huddle in to lady to pose for a fun wedding photo

The Old Library Birmingham Wedding Suppliers

Jo’s look: Dress by The Couture Company, Orchid Headpiece by GGs Pin Up Couture, Make up by Sarah Russell, Shoes by Converse

Tom’s look: Suit by Slaters Menswear, Shoes by ASOS

Venue: The Old Library, Digbeth

Neon signs: Glowfi

Caterer: Full of Chaat

Artificial flower bouquets: Country Baskets

Entertainment: The Best Men

 

 

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DIY Home Garden Wedding | Erica & James

DIY Home Garden Wedding | Erica & James

Home garden weddings are growing in popularity like a lush green lawn after a summer of rain. And it’s no surprise when you consider that there are some serious cost savings to be made. Plus – if you have a raft of unusual wedding guests that you want to include, why not? That’s exactly what Erica and James did when they got married. Scroll down to read all about their DIY home garden wedding. 

How did you start planning your wedding?

My cousin got engaged a year and a half before we got married and it made us think..uhhm we should probably get a move on! But we first started planning by organising the church stuff, then marquee then my mum helped ALOT.

How did you find planning your wedding?

My mum did a lot of the planning, I just kind of okay-ed and didn’t okay things. The things I did organise I found okay. The most difficult thing I found was the family politics of planning a wedding, which was STRESSFUL!

How did you bring your individual personalities and your values in to your wedding day?

I’m a dog walker and we love our dog so naturally he was the ring bearer! We also had alpacas – we love animals quite obviously!! We wanted to have the wedding reception at home so we could include all of our pets – 1 dog, 2 cats, several ducks and a rabbit!

Which venues did you choose and why?

We got married at the church where family members had previously been married at. The church was also next to the cemetery where my late father is buried. We chose to have our reception at home because we wanted lots of people and used the marquee and field at the back of our house. It was cheaper than hiring a venue.

What is your advice to other couples getting married? What would you do differently?

Do what you want, try not to be too dictated by family members. Write a detailed list of who you want to thank so you don’t forget anyone. Don’t tell anyone where they are going to be sat on the seating plan in advance or just don’t have one. And have music playing constantly, it gives a good flow!

What was it like to work with me?

GREAT SUPER AMAZING. WE LOVE ROWAN!

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DIY Garden Wedding Suppliers

Entertainment: PopGun, The Roving Artist and Charnwood Forest Alpacas

Venues: Temple Balsall Church

Catering: Gourmet Foods

 

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Pub Wedding | London | Josephine & Cosmo

Pub Wedding | London | Josephine & Cosmo

What’s your love story? How did you meet?

We met on Tinder in late 2015. I had been on there for about 2 years and was feeling very jaded and weary, but Cosmo had just joined and I was his second ever Tinder date! Unfair! We had our first date at a grimy pub near my office in Euston directly opposite the men’s loos which created quite the romantic atmosphere.. We couldn’t stop talking and stayed until the pub closed. Luckily our second date was at a much lovelier venue, Miss Tapas in Peckham, where we bonded over how much we love food. He moved in with me (from Crouch End to Peckham, quite the lifestyle change) in June 2017.

What was the proposal like?

We got engaged on Valentine’s Day 2018 in Amsterdam. We were staying in a fancy hotel there and had spent the morning in the spa, when we arrived back in our room he had ordered Champagne to be delivered and gave me a lovely Valentine’s Card – then I saw he was down on one knee with a beautiful custom Hattie Rickards ring made with diamonds inherited from his great grandmother.

How did you get started with planning your wedding?

We had discussed ideas for ‘if we ever got married’ before we got engaged, so were pretty clear on the fundamentals of what we both wanted. We knew we wanted it to be small, just family and close friends, local, and good food was the top priority. We are such foodies and it is the big passion we have in common, we love to eat out and cook so we had high standards for this. I had spotted Southwark Register Office before while going past on a bus and thought it was a lovely building, and so convenient that is was nearby. Once we had decided on that for the ceremony, we wanted to keep hassle to a minimum so basically looked for reception venues within walking distance of there – which narrowed the search considerably.

How did you find planning your wedding?

It was pretty easy to be honest. Neither of us are particularly ‘weddingy’ people, I am not one of those women who dreamed of a big white dress from childhood so had no fixed preconceived ideas of what I wanted. I think that is what stresses a lot o f people out, they are on a targeted quest for the ‘right’ dress/venue/etc when we were more open minded. Our family and friends were super supportive of our approach which meant a lot, we didn’t like quite a lot of the more traditional aspects of weddings (religion, spending the night apart before, father giving the bride away, changing names..) and nobody batted an eyelid when we said we wanted to do it our way. I found breaking it down into manageable chunks made it easier, I got pretty much 90% of my ideas from Instagram and did a bit of scrolling and list making on my lunch break each day rather than mega planning sessions. Quite early on we went to the Most Curious Wedding Fair at Old Truman Brewery in Shoreditch – that was fantastically helpful for getting started wide ideas, and I’d really recommend going to a fair for anyone at the start of this process feeling a bit overwhelmed.

How did you bring your individual personalities and your values in to your wedding day?

I think by rejecting all the problematic traditions associated with weddings as mentioned above, a church would have been absolutely out of the question for us and while the registry office experience wasn’t perfect, when we were saying our vows it felt truly honest and real for us so that meant a lot. For me the biggest way I brought my individual personality in was wearing a bridal jumpsuit! Everyone got a real kick out of that and I absolutely loved it, it was white and lacy but also midi length and with pockets so a perfect balance between traditional and modern, and everyone who knows me knows I adore a jumpsuit so that was great. So many women were marvelling at me saying how brave I was and how they wished they could have worn a jumpsuit for their wedding which amazed me, it’s your day people!

I think the focus on food was another key way we put our personalities and values as a couple front and centre, it wasn’t about being glam or fancy but about hearty, delicious food shared family style on long tables, everyone being together and getting stuck in for a celebratory feast – that was the best part of the day really. And the cheese cake! We decided long before we got engaged that if we ever got married we would have a tower of cheese instead of a cake and that worked out amazingly (and allowed us to include a dessert course from the pub’s yummy menu). Having the cheese tasting at La Fromagerie to choose the layers for our ‘cake’ was one of the funnest parts of the planning process and everyone loved tasting the cheeses we had chosen.

Which venues did you choose and why?

The register office was purely because it was in a pretty old building and very nearby to our flat, which we really wanted. That was a decision we made quite quickly at the start. Then the pub for the reception we chose because it was within walking distance of the register office, had a space you could hire for free that fitted our requirements in terms of numbers, and because they have amazing food. I came across them on Instagram where someone had shared a photo of a menu from a previous wedding at the Crooked Well – I immediately thought, wow that all sounds delicious. We went in for dinner there to check it out, they were immediately so welcoming and lovely, congratulating us on our engagement and offering us free prosecco. They seemed genuinely so excited to host us and to make it the best day possible, which was lovely. We looked at a couple of other venues where it was all ‘you can’t do this, can’t do that, this is only available at these times, you must do this and not that..’ and it felt like you were being treated just as a transaction to extract as much money as possible. The Crooked Well team were the opposite.

What did you both wear? Why did you choose that?

I wore a white lace midi length jumpsuit from Whistles bridal. The first thing I did when we came back from the holiday where we got engaged was google ‘high street wedding dresses’ as I am definitely not the big custom made meringue type, Whistles immediately came up as recommended in multiple places and as soon as I saw the jump suit I fell in love. I wear jumpsuits a lot, and it seemed appropriate to continue this on the big day! I went with one of my bridesmaids to try it on, and was explaining to the salesperson that I had just got engaged and this was the first outfit I was trying. As soon as it was on I just said ‘yep it’s the one’ and she was gobsmacked I could decide so quickly, but when you know, you know! Cosmo wore a blue three piece suit from Suit Supply, this was decided a bit later on once we had figured out a rough colour scheme for the wedding generally so he could fit in with that. He had some gorgeous deep burgundy patent shoes from Ask The Missus and I got some gold glittery mid heels from Office that were brilliant, I had an extra pair of flats from Betsey Johnson Blue to change into but never did as the heels were comfortable enough to dance in all night. Everyone absolutely loved my clutch bag from I Know The Queen, I found it in a wedding magazine and it was absolutely perfect, and tied the whole look together.

What sort of theme did you go for with your decor and styling?

I am not the most visually creative person so relied a lot on a talented bridesmaid who is and also trusting our suppliers to do their thing. I would say that is probably the main advice I would give here, find people like florists whose work you really like and then give them a rough brief and let them get on with it, they will probably do a better job than you and you’ll get a nice surprise on the day! My initial instinct was pale pink for bridesmaids dresses (millennial pink all the way, I’m such a cliche) with metallic accents, as I love rose gold. My bridesmaid encouraged me to remember that we were planning in the summer but the wedding would be in autumn when it was much darker and colder, plus she suggested working with the decor in the venue rather than against it which was a great tip. So we introduced a bit of burgundy into the colour scheme along with white, metallics and pink.

I had a photo album of Instagram screenshots and lots of different ideas, again great advice from my bridesmaid was to pick a couple of things and do them properly rather than trying to do everything – so we just went with flowers and balloons. We ordered lots of weighted bunches of beautiful opalescent and confetti filled balloons in a pink and burgundy colour scheme from Bubblegum Balloons to be delivered filled with helium o n the day which worked out amazingly and minimised hassle, plus lots of flower arrangements from the florist, with smaller ones along the centre of the banqueting tables and larger ones dotted around the venue. Our florist was fantastic and can’t thank her enough, Chanti Clark at Southern Wild based in Peckham – she was an absolute dream and is a true artist.

On top of this it just needed small details where I stuck with the metallic theme to bring it together – I bought loads of mixed gold tea light holders from The Wedding of My Dreams.com, little gold wire heart place holders from Amazon, then we just tied burgundy ribbon around the napkins. Our favours looked really cute on the table too, we got custom M&Ms from MyMMs.com in little heart shaped holders which I tied gold ribbon onto to pull together with the theme. We wanted a favour that everyone could enjoy, both adults and kids, and these worked out really well. If you can’t have M&Ms with your name on for your wedding, when can you?

What was your ceremony like?

The ceremony was short and sweet. At a register office you are pretty much churned through as quickly as possible, we were the last one of the day which made things a bit more relaxed. It was slightly stressful as there is no ability to really plan for the ceremony, you can’t get into the room in advance to rehearse or figure out where everyone will go, and you only meet the registrar five minutes before the ceremony so it was a bit of a panic trying to ensure she pronounced everyone’s names right. This is probably the one bit I would do differently actually, to get a celebrant in a licensed venue so that you can have more control over what is said, they get to know you, you can rehearse and practice etc.

We were only allowed one reading which my brother Phelim delivered beautifully for us, again it was one I found on Instagram! It was an extract from Song of the Open Road by Walt Whitman which we liked because it wasn’t a traditional lovey-dovey romantic poem but more about partnership and sticking by each other in the adventure of life. Choosing the songs was fun, usually at weddings you have old fashioned hymns but we walked into Ain’t No Mountain High Enough by Marvin Gaye and Tammi Terrell, signed the register to Movin’ On Up by Primal Scream and walked out to Don’t Stop by Fleetwood Mac. When the opening bars of the Mac started playing right after the ‘you may kiss the bride’ moment was probably the best bit of the ceremony for me. It all felt very ‘us’ which was great.

What was your plan for the reception / party?

We wanted everyone to just be very relaxed, well fed and have a good time, both adults and kids. We had about an hour and a half of mingling with canapes and bubbly which was great as we got to walk around and chat to everyone. We had a few little personal touches and activities dotted around which were a bit of an afterthought but actually made the day for me. We had a polaroid guest book, an idea I got from my florist as traditional guest books are a bit boring and with 30 guests we would have filled about 2 pages of one. I found an old wooden frame in my dad’s garage, spray painted it gold and looped clippy fairy lights around it, and propped it up with a polaroid camera – everyone took a photo, signed it and clipped it on the frame. It looked so cool and the adults and kids alike had fun messing around with the camera. I put together a little activity box for the kids with colouring books, glow sticks, bubbles, temporary tattoos etc which was good to have on hand and I hope help ed the adults relax a bit. We also had coasters on the table from The Wedding of my Dreams.com again which had a space to write on advice for the newly married couple – we put little pots of pens on the table and lots of people filled these out, reading them through after the wedding has been such a wonderful treat and they are one of the highlights for me. We are putting them along with the polaroids and some prints of our fabulous photos into a big scrapbook.

Dinner was delicious, we had a bunch of different starters from aubergine, mozzarella and pesto salad to crispy salt and pepper quid which everyone shared, then beef wellington and salmon wellington f or the main course, the theory being everyone would choose between the two but they were so delicious most of us had a bit of each! Then we had chocolate tart for dessert, before cutting the cheese cake which everyone helped themselves to throughout the night. The speeches were another big highlight of the day for us, we spread them out with a couple before dinner and a couple more between the main course and dessert which worked well. We started with the father of the bride and then one of my bridesmaids, then the best man and then Cosmo and I each gave a short speech. They were hilarious and moving and one of my favourite memories of the day.

If you had a first dance, what was the song and why?

It was Two Doors Down by the Mystery Jets. We have very different tastes in music and the closest we have come to a serious argument is debating whether Blur or Oasis were better (obviously Oasis, to anyone with sense..) but one of the few bands we both like is the Mystery Jets. We discovered early on that we had both been to the same Reading Festival before we met, when I would have been about 15 and Cosmo 20 (awkward) and both saw the Mystery Jets at the same time. Later it was then the first gig we went to together, and I remember at the time listening to this song and thinking it would be a good wedding first dance! The music at the wedding was very basic, we just had an iPod plugged into a big speaker. This is the one fault of the Crooked Well, the sound system was a bit rubbish, but everyone had drunk enough by that point to really go for it on the little dancefloor and I am really proud of our playlist. We had enough old classics on there that even my dad was cutting some crazy shapes.

What is your advice to other couples getting married? What would you do differently?

Number one advice would be follow your instincts, do what YOU want. The only things I regret about our day were the instances where I went against my first instinct and felt under pressure to do things because I ‘should’. Rely on your close friends and family to help, you won’t be able to do it all by yourself. Have a talk early on with your partner about the bottom line, what are the top 3 major dealbreakers for you with the wedding (ours was small, local, good food) and this will be a good focus point for you as you’re surrounded by millions of suggestions and ideas. The only thing I would do differently is use a celebrant instead of the register office, that whole experience in the planning stage was a bit stressful and it would have be en worth spending a bit more money to choose a person that you really like and tail or making your ceremony. Go to a wedding fair early on, don’t expect to make any major decisions there but get inspiration. Keep some form of visual record, I tried P interest but couldn’t get into it so kept a photo album on my phone of visual inspiration and shared it with my bridesmaids so they could share ideas. Buy a wedding planner book, I got one from Paperchase for £16 and it was super useful, lots of room for notes and checklists, folders to keep loose papers and invoices etc. Be really clear on the day if you want people to actually do important jobs, we said ‘ok us hers can you do this’ and none of it happened, be specific and say to individuals ‘you are in charge of this!’.

What was it like to work with me?

Amazing! Hiring you was the best decision we made (aside from marrying each other..). Whole process was perfect from start to finish, and the photos are INCREDIBLE. Everyone on the day commented on how fab our photographer was, one of our guests is a semi professional photographer so brought her camera to the wedding, but said she quickly put it away when she saw how great you were! We wanted fun and informal documentary style photography, and said from the start we both can’t stand those weddings where everyone has to stand around for 2 hours while the couple has an extended photoshoot with loads of moody black and white portraits. You gave excellent and efficient direction so we got all the group shots we wanted quickly, keeping everyone’s spirits up in that freezing garden when they all just wanted to get inside, and the photos you got of me and Cosmo together are just perfect – not staged or posey, but perfectly capturing how we really are.

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Outfits:
Bride – Whistles , I Know The Queen and Office
Groom – Suit Supply, Hawes and Curtis

Wedding Squad Outfits:
Ties –  Hawes and Curtis
Bridesmaids –  Asos and Reiss

Florist: Southern Wild

Venues: Church Street HotelSouthwark Register Office and The Crooked Well Pub

Decoration / Styling: Flowers from Southern Wild  and Balloons from Bubblegum Balloons

Cake maker: La Fromeragerie Marylebone

Stationery: Papier

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Asylum Chapel Wedding London | Lou & Nick

Asylum Chapel Wedding London | Lou & Nick

This wedding. THIS WEDDING. oh my days if Carlsberg made weddings, they’d be this wedding. It was an absolute dream – mega cool couple who I could hang out with for days, two epic venues (The Asylum Chapel and Brunswick House) and a gaggle of guests who know how to party hard. It was a dream come true. Keep scrolling to find out what Lou and Nick’s epic Asylum Chapel wedding in London was like.

How did you first meet and what was the proposal like?

We met at university in Farnham, Surrey. Nick studied a degree in Fine Art Louise studied a BA in Journalism Friends and fellow housemates, set about dropping hints there might be a certain something. One drink led to another one night in October (20/10/2005), they hit it off.
Fast forward 7 years, and Nick, proposed to Louise over a bowl of butternut squash soup at home. The rest is history!

How did you get started with your Asylum Chapel wedding planning?

Things changed from small humble ideas too quickly being swept away with the whirlwind of wedding planning. We started with a small catchment area in mind, south London. And knew we wanted to get married in somewhere that truly reflected us. Asylum Chapel at Caroline Gardens was immediately on our wish list. But, even (what we thought was) far enough in advance we weren’t successful with our date. Back to the drawing board. After searching for venues high and low, we went back to Asylum on the off-chance that our wedding date had magically become available. It had! We were in luck. Now to find a reception venue.

This is where things got a little tougher. We mentioned humble beginnings, well we had our hearts set on a relaxed pub setting with good food, great beer in a homely environment. Turns out that was pretty hard to come by. Especially in London, in close proximity to the ceremony venue. We were conscious of commuting across London, losing valuable party time to travelling. It was then that we came across Brunswick House.

We’d seen it previously but for some reason had struck it off the list. But we were seeing it with new eyes. It seemed to be worth checking out. We took a day trip to visit the house one Saturday when it was open to the public, and were immediately taken by its charm. Stuffed full of eclectic paraphernalia (open antique house where everything’s for sale), this old Georgian town house was perfect! Three floors of jam-packed character and unique spaces to spend our wedding day in. We’d found the bases for our day. Now to add the special touches!

 

 

 

 

 

Why did you choose The Asylum Chapel for your Wedding?

We chose to have our wedding ceremony at the Asylum Chapel. The most charming battered-out old shell. It’s got such a distinct patina lending itself to an atmosphere that was bang on. On the day, the sun shining through the stained glass was just magic. Beautifully distressed and abundantly atmospheric, why wouldn’t we choose it?

We chose Brunswick House for our reception: This large Georgian house is steeped in history and grandeur but also has a relaxed homely quality that we were looking for. It felt a befitting space, special enough for a wedding with its interesting and eclectic environment (a patchwork of bits and pieces from all eras) which had a similarly beaten-up/worn-in quality. It also offered an interesting, inventive seasonal menu served from the connecting restaurant. Finally, the cellar rooms at Brunswick House were the hidden gem. A vaulted undercroft which provided the sort of cloistered setting we were after for the party. The different nooks allowed guests to involve themselves in the mix of things on the dance floor or break away for some chill time.

What did you both wear? Why did you choose those outfits?

Nick wore: Jacket YMC, Shirt YMC, Trousers Cos, Shoes Nike Air Max 95’s, Badge One We Made Earlier (Bespoke Design)
Lou wore: Bespoke Jumpsuit: Joanna Roberts Bridal Shoes – Heels Vagabond – Trainers Air Max 95’s Bag Vintage Fur collar Reiss, Necklace & Earrings Aliquo, Designs Headpiece One We Made Earlier (Bespoke Design)

What sort of theme did you go for with decor and styling?

Relaxed, autumnal, playful. We didn’t really have a theme, it was just an attitude that we want to bring to the day. An atmosphere.
We wanted to stay clear of trite cliches like the plague 😉
The invitations were a springboard for a few design touches throughout the day, tho ugh. The same colours continued through to design the table plan, patterns used on one of the cakes, and the lanyards we had instead of place names.
Flowers by Edie Rose: As orange was a key colour, we wanted this to feature in the bouquets and displays. From the celosia to an abundance of physalis, offset by sage tones predominately brought by eucalyptus. The autumnal array of flowers both captured peoples attention due to the vivid colour but also their fragrance. Louise’s bouquet was everything she wanted, adding that orangey splash of colour to her outfit. Bunches of eucalyptus tied to chairs in the isles, big display features in the chapel at Asylum. These were transported to Brunswick and used to decorate the reception. Centrepieces were made up of a selection of similar flowers to the bouquets a s well as pumpkins of all shapes, sizes and tones.

What was your ceremony like?

Beautiful (if we do say so ourselves). There’s no lighting in the chapel, other than candles, so we were heavily reliant on the natural light pouring in the through the stained glass. Lucky for us, we were greeted with a sunny autumnal day. With a warmth in the air, and the sun pouring in to the chapel it was filled with a gorgeous hue.

It felt very special to be in a place so full of history and character. We fell in love with the venue immediately, and as we previously mentioned it almost didn’t happen for us. Being able to get married in such a stunning place was incredible. Walking into the chapel was such an uplifting, awesome experience. Our wedding song was Flee by Mechatok, and despite the name it’s so incredibly euphoric. Everything went blurry except for Nick and it was a real moment. Walking towards him, eyes fixed. I’ll never forget it.

 

The speeches were also very special. Nick found our friend, Tamala’s speech such a surprising yet special touch. I’d asked Tamala to read Bob Marley’s poem ‘He’s Not Perfect.’ Despite the name, the words mean a lot to me and I really want to do some thing for Nick on the day. “Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.” It says everything in such a beautifully simplistic way. I asked Tamala as we have been friends for as long as I’ve known Nick – 13 years. My course mate at uni and Nick’s house mate in halls, she was an instigator in bringing us together and I’m so very thankful for that.

Secondly, our friend Jude read ‘Union’ by Robert Fulghum. Having read through a lot of readings and been present at many weddings it was hard to pick one that truly represented us. But the words of this reading really rung true for us. And there was no better person than Jude.
Other touches that really set things off for us were the bubbles instead of confetti, we weren’t sure if this would work but it did and was so fun! The registrar, Ricardo, was an absolute star and really helped to set the tone: not too serious, fun yet special. And that was important! Balloons, the bouquet toss! The jazzy sax and guitar was also so great! We wanted this element and our talented friend David (Jude’s partner) made this happen for us. So thankful! There were countless things!

What was your plan for the reception?

Delicious food. Good wine. Laughter. Fun. Dancing. More drinks. What more could we want?
The food was much needed after a number of glasses of Prosecco and some super tasty gin cocktails. Sitting down at the head table and drinking in the setting was pretty opulent yet comfortable. There’s a sense of being at home at Brunswick, having all your friends and family over for an extra special occasion. That was the kind of feels we were hoping for.
When time came for the speeches, there were a few nerves. Up first was me, followed by Nick, my sister (best woman), my Dad and then the best man. Doing a speech was important to me, as was it to ask my sister if she wanted to say a few words. Fuck tradition.


When it came to planning what we wanted for the party, music was big on the agenda. From the music at the ceremony, to the evening’s music – there was a certain feel w e wanted to bring with the music we chose. When we were planning the party, we asked each other what would be the best case scenario music-wise. Having been to many a sweaty Hipsters Don’t Dance (HDD) set, they were top of our lists. But wedding DJs, they aren’t. On a wing and prayer, we ping them an email and to our surprise they were in. A simple request, tun up and play our favourite music. The dark cavernous cellar rooms of Brunswick were made for this night, an amazing sweaty night was just what we’d hope for. Nick’s shirt was drenched and we didn’t stop dancing. The BEST night EVER.

 

What was your first dance song and why?

Aaliyah – One in a Million.
Nick: “Because she really is one in a million” Slow, sultry R&B flavours nailed the brief!

What is your advice to other couples getting married? What would you do differently?

Advice: Stay true to who you are as a couple. Don’t be swayed by wedding cliches. Don’t feel as though you have to make compromises you won’t be happy with. Enjoy it. The planning and the day itself go by so quickly, so drink it all in.
Do differently? Nothing. That would compromise how in love with the day we are.

 

What was it like working with me?

Frighteningly easy. Like an old friend. Or an adopted adult child.
A woman who knows her shit, is fucking talented and a joy. Thanks for documenting the day and being there to the bitter end. Love a gal who can party hard.

 

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Outfits:
Bespoke Jumpsuit by Joanna Roberts Bridal Accessories
Head piece bespoke by One We Made Earlier (Emma & Rob)
Bridesmaids: Silk Fred , Topshop,  ZaraJigsaw, Whistles , Reiss and & Other Stories
Groomsman: WeekdayBurton  and ASOS

Florist: Edie Rose Designs

Venues: Asylum Chapel  and Brunswick House

Cake maker: Caked Patisserie

Transport: Bus from London Retro Bus Hire 

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